this guy is going out on you.................and his guilt makes your everyday..a misery. He sees you sweet and quiet and nice...and doing all things you should be doing...and he feels guilty and it bothers him when you are together....Life with this guy is never going to be good until he stops going to bed with other women. And thats whats going on. a man doesnt act this way unless he is so guilt ridden he cant stand himself...so he tries to figure our a way to make you think you are doing wrong....picks up on all things you are doing which in his mind can allow him to feel less guilty....too many women take this crap and grin and bear it for years.....<br />you can either check up on his phone calls, testing...visits..travels..hotel rooms...call them when he doesnt expect it.......check his milage..<br />you can either be a PI and find out all the gruesome facts...or you can just move out of the bedroom.<br />it depends on how strong you are to end this mess.<br />you could buy a rollaway bed and place it in a small room and refuse to have sex until this stops....and I mean carry this into 2-3 months<br />this isnt going to stop over night....this is going to take a strong lady to make this work......<br />if this was me.....................I would tell him any DAY..that he isnt his best in the home.....that you move out of the bedroom for a month.....a MONTH<br />that means that his punishment for one rotten verbal comment will bring him 4 weeks of no sex<br />( and stick to it)<br />you both need to sit down and you need to take charge of the conversation...............let him know that the only thing that causes this sort of behavior is guilt on his side.<br />that what ever he has done must come out.so...........everytime he says something rotten to the kids...or you....you wait until he is busy elsewhere in the house and you get your own bedding in your own bed area and then go there when its bedtime.If he comes to harrass you, call the cops.<br />this man needs to know that what he is doing is UNACCEPTABLE behavior<br />I would have my own bedroom........................no sex because this guy will one day bring something home to you like herpies or some crotch crud....this needs to come to an end.......your children should never have to enddure this sort of treatment....and what you are saying is.........<br />" I am willing to sacrafice my childrens happiness and mine for a roof over my head"<br />think about it..............your children will grow up unloved by their father and watching their mother endure hell....what type of a life is this for you all.<br />he knows your situation with NO family other than him so he is taking advantage of it.....he knows you wont do anything to break up the marriage because you have no place to go.........so this is what you got .....time to put an end to his hateful antic from his own guilt...................time to tell him you know he is going out on you.................and because of this he treats you and the kids with anger and fruistration not being able to come clean.so.you need to tell him.................." what ever you want to do and what ever you want to say.....you go for it....but you will sleep alone until it stops. Dont accept any dinners, because this stamps his right to continue and all he needs to do is feed you and you forgive him...time to say...NO<br />if you dont, the school could see the tension in your children and if the councilor asks them questions...which they pick for the ocassion.....and they tedect the home problems you state here...they could take your children away....and leave you with the culprit thats doing it.<br />so....................time to get with it.....end this crappy life you have and make things happen.....<br />if he abuses you physically......there are things we women can do.....life put soap powder in their ceareal.....chilli in their underwear......<br />jean,
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